Sunday, March 11, 2018

A pep talk from my dad

March was my dad's birth month. To celebrate his memory, I'm sharing a letter he sent several years ago. I've read and re-read this letter so many times over the years--when  I've needed that extra little bit of courage. 

Dear Leanne

There is an old saying--There is no fool like an old fool--to while I would add the line--"and the older the fool the bigger the fool and I am old--"71".

All this refers to the reception you received from me when you told me that you were going to try selling as a career.

I remember putting up all kinds of arguments against it. Finally, I have gotten around to thinking about it in a quieter manner and following is what I have come up with.

In the first place, I remember saying, "This is a poor time to change jobs--things are tough--we are in a recession" and so on.

The answer to that-- Well try as I might I just can't figure out what I would consider a good time to change-- you have heard all about the depression--but how many people picked that time to change or to start a new career--lots of them--And the ones that worked at it and gave it their best shot--they were the ones that were ready and when the depression ended--they rode the wave to the top--nothing worthwhile comes easily.

And then I told you that in my day if you had a job you hung onto it.

That's what I did! And I was a Postmaster for 32 years--nothing wrong with being a Postmaster for 32 years except it was in the same office and the same position. 

I lacked the nerve or self-confidence to change--to bid on a bigger office--because as I told myself "there would be a lotta hassle to change," and many other excuses, now I know that if you try something and it doesn't work out you learnt something and you are more knowledgeable and experienced than someone who didn't try.

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all! says the wise saying by someone who had lived life.

The prize goes to the winner and the winner is the one who gives it the old college try--the winner is the one who takes a chance, the one who has self-confidence.

And then when you told me your intentions and I gave you all my arguments against them--I forgot, Leanne--that you can think as well as I--you know your situation better than I--you know what your goal is--How dare I tell you how to think and what is best--

And lastly--How could I doubt that you will do just fine -- You -- the girl who left home to join KATIMAVIK--who served her time--that was as much an experience as joining the army and one certainly learnt from that.

So after thinking all this out and mulling it over--I apologize for my negative attitude--for my hasty decision that you were wrong--I'm truly sorry and now I say to you.

GO FOR IT-- GIVE IT ALL YOU GOT you will win!

Here I will end my homily. I just hope I can always remember that you have a wealth of determination and are perfectly capable of paddling your own canoe.

All my love!

May all daughters. everywhere, receive such a letter.

Next post:  
Book review:  Precious Cargo by Craig Davidson (memoir)
A heartfelt look back at a man, a bus, and his special needs passengers.


Sharing my author journey...
Isn't it funny how life works? It makes more sense when you look back on it. I spent a lot of time wishing that the 

right publisher would find me. I wanted to have that manuscript published NOW. To make the waiting bearable, I spent invested time in developing my online community and my blog and in writing--working on the next project and the next and the next. In brief, I got stuff done that I may have not even thought about. And now, looking back, I'm thankful I had to wait.



Darlene said...

Wise words from your dear Dad! Mine was similar. He discouraged me to change jobs at one time as well and then thought better of it. He was a farmer/rancher and knew all about taking risks. We were lucky to have had such wonderful fathers.

Laurie Buchanan said...

Leanne — No wonder you've read and re-read that letter from your dad a hundred times over, IT'S A TREASURE!

Leanne Dyck said...

We certainly were, Darlene. : )

Leanne Dyck said...

Thank you for your kind comment, Laurie. And as is the letter, as was the man.